How Do We Develop a Healthy Self-image and more Positive View of Ourselves?
Source: The Message in Your Emotions by Dr. Wayne McDill
Our Value and Worth:
Eternal Value – Created in the Image of God
Attributed Value – Value expressed through others
Attained Value – Worth assigned based on contributions one has made to the common good, society, etc.
CHAMBER OF SECRETS
Notes: “The Chamber of Secrets” (pgs. 59-60) Source: The Message in Your Emotions by Dr. Wayne McDill
The things we do for Christ are to be “secret, selfless, and in service” to others.
The Bible teaches, “Do the right things and keep them secret.” (Matthew 6:1,4) Also, admit and confess your sin (wrongful actions), and make them public to others you can trust. (Confess your sins, one to another) James 5:16
In practicing the Biblical principles above, you get rid of what lowers your value and keep what raises it.
Key Point: The secrets you keep will feed your self-esteem, one way or the other. No matter what others think of you, you know what is stored in the “Chamber of Secrets” in your mind.
Big Questions: When you look into your“Chamber of Secrets”:
What will you see?
What will your secrets tell you about yourself?
What will they do for your self-esteem?
How will they affect your energy, your motivation, and your creativity?
How will they affect your fellowship with God?
How will they affect your attitudes, words, and actions toward others? Relationships?
CHAMBER OF SECRETS - The Problem & The Solution
“The Chamber of Secrets” Within the Human Heart (NEGATIVE) The Problem - If what you see there is a supply of memories that shame and embarrass you, your (confidence) and self-esteem will plummet.
“The Chamber of Secrets” Within the Human Heart (POSITIVE)
The Solution – Confession exposes your shameful secrets (sins) to God and to others who may be involved. Confession cleans the ‘shameful’ stuff out of your Chamber of Secrets. Confession can become a (healthy) ongoing process; a matter of just being open before God and others, admitting your mistakes and sins, as well as learning to laugh at yourself (giving yourself the grace God gives).
If you visit your Chamber of Secrets and it is well-stocked with memories of ‘selfless service’, your sense of self-worth will be enhanced every time you visit. As you serve for the eyes of God only, you store up a good supply of evidence of who you are (in Christ). God sees what you do in ‘secret,’ and you see it. These memories feed into a healthy ‘Christ-centered’ self-esteem.